Employee workplace dating pros and cons

You might discover a hobby or interest that you share in common or some details on what they are looking for in a partner. You should definitely avoid mentioning anything work related or refer to anyone else in the office, this will only remind both of you that you are in fact colleagues and may plant the seeds of doubt in one or both of your minds.On the other hand, you also have the benefit of having seen this person in real life, having heard their laugh, seen their smile, and possibly even seen them under pressure. If you’re thinking about it long enough to check their profile more than once, then you’ve already made your choice. Well, you could take the easy option of simply liking their profile or photos. Once again the ball is in their court, but at least this way some kind of action must be taken.You might not always see eye to eye about things at work, which could cause work problems to become problems. Competing for the same projects or promotions could cause serious problems in your relationship; it could also cause one of you to bow out and losing out on great opportunities to grow professionally.Regardless of the pros and cons, most people who find themselves in a co-worker romance have already made the decision that they want to give it a shot.You might long for the time when you could lunch alone or with friends once in a while without hurting your partner’s feelings. It would be great to think that if you broke up you and your partner would be able to stay friends, or at the very least, cordial co-workers, but we all know that there is no way to guarantee that.

Again, in the beginning when you want to spend as much time together as possible, it might be amazing to go to work together, get lunch together and then go home together; but once you have been doing it for months (even years), you might feel differently.

Although many adults work together in close quarters or under intense circumstances without ever falling in love or even being tempted, many come close enough to the fictional portrayals of workplace romances to attract the stern attention of human-resource professionals.

Fairfield University’s Lisa Mainiero and co-author Kevin Jones of Indiana University and Purdue University, write in two separate articles (2013a and 2013b) about the perhaps precipitous downsides to the “Workplace Romance 2.0," in which the innocent sharing between coworkers who admire and support each other can descend down the slippery slope into romance or sexual harassment. If you’re Facebook friends with the people at your workplace, you might inadvertently upload information about yourself that portrays you in a less than a professional light.

Do you see a person daily with whom you share important goals, interests, and values—often in close contact, and often when you’re trying to maintain your appearance? If your answer to the first question is Yes, but to the second is No, you may be one of the millions of adults involved, knowingly or unknowingly, in a workplace romance of one kind or another.

A common theme of TVs and movies, the extreme flirting (or more) of couples who work at the same hospital, police station, law firm, or other office is a scenario we’ve come to accept, if not expect.


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